Danny and I sometimes argue, like every other couple on this planet. I want to make a point, and I don’t care if I hurt anyone’s feelings, I think. Thinking back, I can’t remember a single time I felt better after one of our arguments. It never made me feel better to put Danny down and accuse him. Lately, I’ve spent a lot of time reflecting on what I can do to improve our communication with each other.
Living with someone is a lot different from seeing each other only on weekends, now that I am married. Disagreements are different, even though I can’t put my finger on it. Our marriage really was a transformation for both of us because now our lives are intertwined. We think as a team because we have dreams and aspirations for both of us, not just one of us. When we got married, Danny and I never changed. Our personalities stayed the same and the way we spoke to each other stayed the same. We continue to develop ourselves every day even though we are now husband and wife. I’m still getting to know my husband, just through a different light than before.
From now on, I’d really like to take a step forward towards how I communicate with Danny. If I actually listen to what he is saying, I know he will do the same for me. I’m not saying my husband, and I always argue, we enjoy spending time together! However, every couple goes through life’s stresses and tend to become more focused on that than each other. I want for both of us to cut as many stressors in our relationship as possible. Growing up, I listened to many arguments at home. My parents both thought each other was wrong and spent ample time trying to convince the other of that. I found myself starting to act the same way my parents did in my household. It is important for me to change how I respond instead of acting on those frustrations of mine.
I am very grateful to have a husband as wonderful as Danny. He supports me in everything I do and is open to trying everything once with me. I am blessed to have such a wonderful family. Petty arguments really don’t have a firm standing in our relationship as long we both strive to communicate with respect for each other.