I have written a lot of blog posts on being frugal, in fact, I think most of the blog posts on Diana Met Danny have to do with being frugal. I even have a group board on Pinterest for those who are interested in living frugally. When I first started working on my blog, being frugal was extremely important to me and something that I took pride in. Being frugal was a part of my identity. Because I was frugal I saved money on a tight income and did things like pay off my credit card and my school tuition.
Now a lot of things have changed! For one, I don’t coupon anymore. Couponing took a lot of time but saved us a lot of money on food and household items so it was worth it then. Secondly, I don’t spend as much time researching how to be frugal or thrifty either.
Instead of labeling myself as a frugal blogger, which I haven’t been for a long time, I like to think of myself as being financially smart. Instead of trying to maximize every purchase that I make, I place my money where I have to and where I’d like to without feeling guilty about it. I still consider my budget when making purchases, but I’m not going to consider being frugal in every single aspect of my life. I like to spend more money where it makes sense or simply because I feel like it makes me happy.
There’s a huge difference between spending frivolously and spending money wisely. For one, my husband and I enjoy going out to eat when he’s at home and off the road. Going out to eat gives us a new change of scenery as well as something to do. We’re able to reconnect over dinner and eat some good food (hopefully) at the same time! I mean, what could be better than that?
What spurred this change has little to do with me spending more than I did before, but the fact that I just don’t want to label myself as frugal anymore. I feel like I have a much healthier relationship with money now, and I just want to enjoy myself without feeling like I’m putting myself in a category. One of my goals for this year is to give back to my church regularly as well as other organizations I believe in. I also hope that I can visit Ecuador and Colombia as well. I can’t believe that I haven’t seen my grandmother since I was in middle school and that I haven’t ever met Danny’s side of the family in person.
So yes, I still consider myself financially responsible, but no way would I say that I’m frugal. Discovering Dave Ramsey was such a blessing in our lives and following his methods to pay off debt helped us get through some rough times. I still save money where I can, and I don’t spend money that I don’t have. There are just some more splurges and luxury items added in there along the way, and I don’t feel shame or guilt about it. As long as it’s within our means, and bills are paid first I see no harm in treating ourselves every once in a while.
I love this post! I think people should spend their money on whatever makes them happy (of course as long as the bills are paid) And you certainly don’t have to explain why you spend money on certain things. You work for it, you spend it! 🙂 I think a lot of people tend to judge people off of the purchases they make, and I really don’t think that’s cool.
Thank you for your comment Ebony! 🙂