I feel like putting my marriage first seems like a weird, slightly out of this world decision. I can’t even imagine telling someone a date with my husband is more important to me than becoming a doctor or saving the world from hunger. On another note, I hate blood but I’d like to save the world from hunger.
Danny will always be more important than anything else in my life. By putting my marriage first, it becomes easier to find success in other parts of my life. It’s hard to focus on anything else if there is trouble in my marriage. I didn’t marry my husband because he makes me happy. I married him because I made the choice to commit to building a life together. Putting my marriage first means sacrifice and selflessness from both of us.
I’m blessed to have a husband who feels the same way. We know if we don’t actively work on our relationship, that it’s easy to grow apart and become more like roommates than partners. Putting my marriage first may not seem like such an urgent task today or tomorrow. But stress accumulates over the years!
For example, when my husband and I argue we usually don’t want to see each other sides. We only care about getting our side across and we don’t care about the other person’s needs. Both of us never feel like doing anything else when we argue, and it leads to us not being the productive, power couple I know we are! : ) We have worked hard to resolve disagreements, so they don’t turn into full-blown arguments. By doing this, we are telling each other our communication is more important than wanting to be right all the time.
By putting my marriage first, I increase the likelihood of finding success in my career, education, and spirituality. When things are good at home everything else falls into place. It’s a lot of work dedicating your life to another person, but I wouldn’t trade my life with Danny for another. No marriage is ever perfect, but the relationships you form with others will be your lasting legacy.